It's funny to know how many of you are seriously avoiding anything that will take them to village this christmas. You are now running away from your uncles and aunties and cousins, not because they are bad or evil, but because you don't want anyone to ask you anything about MARRIAGE. You don't want anyone to remind you that you your AGE.
The hard part is not even that you are running from your people, or the fun you will miss, or the way you will stick to an empty compound in the township when everyone must have gone home, No! The hard part is how the season will just be reminding you every minute that your biological clock is ticking All your friends will just be giving you IV upandan. 27th, 28th, 29th, 30th, 31st, you'll just be attending friend's trad or church weddings. You will even start asking yourself, "Arhhhh, does God even know that I'm still single? Is He even aware I'm running out of time?!"
Aunty, why put your life on hold waiting for someone else or some event to come and complete it? 
 Why put your focus on a gift than on the Giver? Why are you giving up hope on the promises of God? Why so afraid of what people will say as if that's your reality? I just want to remind you that tomorrow is not promised. God want you to use these days of being single to taste life, to sample all the goodies He has made available. Savor every day as if it's your last and sqeeze every single drop of it. Go home joor! 
Throw out all the negative voices, all their questions and speculatiins. Nothing is wrong with you. The trick of of the Satan is to kill the confidence we have in the love of God. But this is the time to reshuffle the game and shake off the enemies hunting voice, and win. It's time to stop wasting your whole life weeping over what is in other people's life you don't have. It's time to remind yourself that there are many things in your own hand that others desire too. It's time to go to that village and celebrate whatever that is God's intention for letting you see the end of 2019, even as a single.
So, hold your peace and let the chips fall where they may. In the scheme of life, God has numbered our days, out times, and the purpose of our seasons. In most cases, we are where we are simoky because of God's timing and divine plan for our lives. God knows what He is doing! This is why it's so important for us to know what we're supposed to be doing with our lives in the moment. We should be taking advantage of where we are and redeeming our time as singles to the utmost. A time is coming when your life will be consumed by your children and what what to do with the baby's diapers. For now, go to the village and search for those who are not searching for yourself. Go to the village and be the first to great that gossiper because we are walking in the divine assurance that this is the last year you will go home a single.
Why many beautiful relationships didn't survive 2018 is beacuse many lovers are only interested in building relationships, but only a few are interested in building the individuals in a relationship.
Have you ever wondered how some older lovers kept the magic of their relationship alive all these years? Why does it look as if some lovers never grow tired of each other? The secret is in continuously adding value to each other. People want a kind of relationship that will act as a catalyst to the actualization of their dreams. People want relationships that will help them to emerge careerwise. People want relationships that will help them discover their God-given purpose and unleach their maximum potential. People want relationships that will draw them closer to their Creator.
I've found that if someone doesn't bring anything meaningful to the love table in a way that challenges how you think and act, or teach us a thing or two, the relationship becomes stagnant and boring. On the other hand, it's refreshing to be with someone who causes you to look at life differently. What's the point being with someone who doesn't add any value to your life?
You see, it isn't enough that you love each other. It isn't enough that you share life together. While those may be nice, there is still every need for further value creation. Your relationship should empower you to achieve the unthinkable and the unimaginable. Your relationship should push you higher and closer into the person you were meant to be, into the purpose you were created to fulfill. Imagine where your partner exposes you to a whole new things and you do the same for them, you can expect the relationship to be enriching and satisfying for you both. Be a value and add some value!
2019 is few days ahead and I would like to ask you the same question I'd asked you earlier on this post. What's the point being with someone who doesn't add any value to your life? Do you want to go on and on telling stories and expending your energy on a fruitless relationship?