Andrew is not the only victim. Another young lady Stephanie; a victim of sexual abuse, and harrassment has her own story to tell.
Misappropriation of values in Relationship.
Are you in her state right now?
Hear her own side of the story she may help you out.
Sir my name is Stephanie Rogers. I am eighteen years old,and I desire to work for God. I am very active in my church. We have been encouraged several times in my church to be close to our leaders,have mentors whom we can always relate with,go for guidance and be counseled,to leaders who can always help us, direct us to our destinies.
I looked round my church,my friends,fathers and I picked one. I lve his charisma,knowledge and enthusiasm to work for God. He sings, he preaches,teaches,he is just owesome. I desired him as a mentor,so I approached him,sir could you please be my mentor? I will pray about it, he replied. We exchanged numbers.
He was my pastor and I respected and honoured him.
One day my phone rang,who could that be... Behold it was my pastor. Surprised,why he called me. Has he seen any vision for me? I wondered within myself.
The phone rang again. I quitely and honourably answered the call and asked me to come over to his house.
God what have i done wrong,was it because I never went for.Bible study on Monday! I wondered. So, I summoned courage and went to his house.
Welcome Stephanie; he said cheerfully. Please seat down. What can I offer you he added. I quickly responded nothing sir, I am ok- this came from an anticipated heart to know why he called me. You sent for me sir, I quickly responded.
Oh yes,relax your mind, nothing to worry about. I calmed down a little on hearing this. I have been watching you closely and I desire your zeal and desire fo serve God,he said. The reason why I called you is because I wanted us to be friends , I mean I want to help you build up your christian faith better than you are now, help you to grow and conquer the challenges of our environment and sometimes support you.
With all joy , i gladly accepted ,seeing it as a privilage to grow.
Often times,we will meet in the church discussing about the Bible and praying together. I started going to his house more often. We will always discuss, sometimes instead of our Bible study,we started discussing about ourselves. He asked me about my life,my future,my family etc.
One day he said to me that I was very special to him,and he loves me so much. Innocently I said to him, "I love him too" and thanked him for his love,care and support for me and my family.
One evening after our fellowship in church,he asked me to see him for an important discussion. It was already late and dark,but because of whom he was to me,I decided to go over to his house.
On entering he gave me a hug and aked me to sit on his laps.
"Christian sisther how did you go this far"?
I did,after all he was my mentor. As we discusse, his hands started moving all over my body, I became a little bit uncomfortable; what are you doing sir? I asked. He said I should relax, that his hands were anointed and could do no harm, he wS only trying to be more caring and loving to me, since I was special to him.
He continued to my breast,and something triggereds inside of me. I became weak but never knew how to say please stop this, I respected him and never knew what to do or say. His hans moved down my legs, to my laps. Within my heart I wondered,but you are a pastor why are you doing this* I wondered and pondered but was speechless.
I became weaker as he fondled me. Oh my God! What mess have i gotten myself into?
A voice said within me, Run out,stop him or slap him. Another voice said , remember he is your mentor, he is your pastor,I became.weaker.
I became bold and wanted to speak but his lips suddenly magneted mine.
Oh God why me?
A voice said push him away, but I've never felt so good and ecstatic like this before. We slowly went down to the ground,to the bed and it was all over ,we had done it,I wept as I looked at his face and remembered he was suppose to be my mentor. I cried like a baby but he cheered me up and said he was only teaching me how to make love to my husband when i get married.
So naived, I believed him but I wondered; oh God why me? I just lost my pride, my virginity,my honour.
He gave me some money to take care of myself.
It is two months now,I've not seen my period -oh God, what is happening to me I pondered, am I dead or alive, I felt a movement within me,down my abdomen;what could that be?
"Oh Lord help me- How did I get this far"? I told him,he suggested for test,behold I was already three months pregnant unknown to me. When I told him he shouted and demanded to know who was responsible.
Is this man crazy?I said weeping bitterly,sir you dis-virgined me. He cheered me up and suggested for an abortion. God forbid i rsplied. Then you are on your own, he said.
Every night and day I wept,how did this happen to me?How did I get thiis far? Oh God why me. How I wish I never knew him for the first time, or never chose him as my mentor, now my life is destroyed. What about my carrier,my parents,what will my friends in the world say. Oh God save me, help me but now it's too late.
NOTE:WHEN YOU BEGIN TO GO BEYOUND THE BOUNDARY OF A DEFINED RELATIONSHIP YOU'LL GET WHAT YOU NEVER BARGAINED FOR.
THE END.